Tuesday, February 16, 2010
You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes by Lisa McKay
You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes by Lisa McKay is the most practical book on ministry for pastors wives and about pastors wives that I've come across in my 18 years of being a PW. I can't tell you how much I recommend this book for other ministry wives (and even for laypeople who think they have ministry life all figured out <---you don't, by the way. You have no idea.) Lisa mentions several times in her book that she blogs and she shares stories from other PW's as well. The book is full of her observations of church life, how she keeps her family first, how she keeps her mouth shut when people are jumping all over her husband,
-sidenote here- I've always found it interesting that people think they can talk to us any way they choose to, complaining about this and that (about us, our husbands, our kids...even our clothes!) and yet if we dared speak to them the way they talk to us! Keep the mouth shut, Suzanne. *sigh* -okay, rant done (although remind me to tell my Easter dress story!)-
how to know who to befriend in the church and who to keep at a friendly distance (yes, it's always the ones who immediately want to be your BFF who will come back to haunt you). She discusses the "honeymoon period" of church ministry, how the church can hurt and even how to say "NO" when you need to.
I'm telling you, this book has it all. It's perfect for the poor little disillusioned PW and also for the seasoned PW who has a backbone.
I love, love LOVE it and can't wait to read it all over again. THANK YOU Lisa for saying everything I ever wanted to say!
About the book:
When most women think of a “pastor’s wife,” certain images come to mind: either a woman who is so holy she doesn’t seem human or someone sentenced to a life without fun, fashion, or friends. The sad truth is that pastor’s wives often walk a lonely road littered with impossible expectations and inconceivable identity crises. They’re the object of hallway conversations and sermon illustrations, but they rarely have the opportunity to be fully and freely transparent and unique.
Lisa McKay’s You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes is an utterly honest, charmingly witty, and biblically insightful guide for every minister’s wife who wants to serve the church and support her husband¾without losing herself along the way. You will feel an instant sisterhood with Lisa, a senior pastor’s wife happily serving in the trenches. She understands the challenges of a life lived before a congregation, from finding friends and coping with criticism to saying goodbye and starting all over again.
Through Lisa’s engaging style and fresh perspective, you’ll be encouraged to fully embrace being “married to the ministry”! In this book you’ll find answers to questions like:
How can I effectively support my husband?
What are my responsibilities within the church?
Will ministry destroy my family?
Am I doomed to a life of solitude?
The questions haven’t changed much over the years but the answers certainly have. Twenty-first century technology has introduced avenues to connect ministry wives in ways never before possible. Among other things, You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes demonstrates how to use online connectivity as a lifeline when isolation threatens to take over.
You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes is a must-have guide for every woman who wants to do the ministry wife “thing” well. Dealing with relationships between ministry wives, ministry families, and church congregations can be rewarding, confusing, and painful. With that in mind, Lisa uncovers insights from pastor’s wives and lay people as to how we can serve one another and Christ with faithfulness and humility.
David C Cook and Lifeway are partnering for a contest to honor pastor’s wives. Readers are invited to nominate their favorite pastor’s wife and tell why she should win the “You Deserve to Pamper Yourself” grand prize. For details, visit, www.Lifeway.com/CuteShoes.
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